What to do when you are rejected

It is extremely painful to be rejected. But, what is more painful by being rejected is being rejected by the people closest to you like your friends and your family. It hurts even more because they are the first people whom you expect to believe in you.

Today’s Gospel reading tells the story of how Jesus was rejected by His own relatives:

When [Jesus’] relatives heard of this they set out to seize him, for they said, “He is out of his mind.” — Mark 3:21

Have you been rejected?

When we face rejections especially from the people closest to us, it is an opportunity for us to share in the sufferings and the rejections that Jesus Himself faced. We join Jesus in His sufferings as we face the same struggles and pains that Jesus went through. We join Him in carrying the same cross of rejection that He carried.

At the same time, when we face rejections, we also share in the sufferings of other people — His Church — who have also been rejected. We learn to join them in their sufferings as well and empathize with them.  And one day, we may be able to learn how to help them.

When we share in His sufferings and the sufferings of His Church, our sufferings become meaningful. Our sufferings become holy and redemptive and purposeful, not only for ourselves, but also for others.

As St. Paul wrote to the Colossians: 

Now I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake, and in my flesh I am filling up what is lacking in the afflictions of Christ on behalf of his body, which is the church. — Colossians 1:24

It may be difficult now, but let us rejoice in our sufferings, including our rejections, for we are able to share in the sufferings of and the rejections faced by Christ.


P.S. Let us also trust that God knows what is best for us.