Loving and honoring our parents

What are you doing for your parents?
For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother,’ and ‘Whoever curses father or mother shall die.’ Yet you say, ‘If a person says to father or mother, “Any support you might have had from me is qorban”’ (meaning, dedicated to God), you allow him to do nothing more for his father or mother. — Mark 7:10-12

When I first joined a charismatic community and attended Bible studies, not only did I spend less time with my parents but also had unfair expectations from them. I expected them to understand me the way people in our community understood me.

When I felt I didn’t get the understanding I wanted from them, it came to the point when I dishonored them by saying hurtful words to them and not giving them the respect they deserve. But the reality is, they understood me. They just loved me in a different way than I wanted them to love me.

How ironic it was that I was attending Bible studies, yet not following God’s commandment.

Honestly, I still don’t know when things changed between us. And I know I still fall short of completely honoring and respecting them at times.

But how I love spending time with them, especially now that I don’t get to spend as much time with them as before.

I wish I could do something for my parents or give them something that they need, but until now, they are the ones who continue to support us, especially when paying for our hospital bills when my wife had to undergo surgery a month ago.

The only things I can give them right now are my time and my love.

One day, I pray that I will once again be able to give them something even if they don’t need it. But while I cannot give them something material yet, I wish to honor them, love them, and spend more time with them.

To my father and mother, thank you for everything. Thank you for your love and support. Thank you for working hard to raise us and provide for us. Thank you for teaching us about God and sharing God’s love to us.

In this little post, I wish I was able to honor you. I love you.

What are you doing for your parents?


P.S. While I don’t know when things changed between us, I know how they did. The more I knew about God in my heart, and not just in my head, the more I learned about how much my parents love me.