Just because there's a buffet lunch doesn't mean you have to eat at it.
Just because you are offered something doesn't mean you have to take it.
Just because someone is saying you have to live your life a certain way doesn't mean you have to.
You always have a choice.
You don't have to put up with anything just because it's there, just because it's convenient, and just because someone is telling you to.
You can choose what meal to eat, what path to take, and what life to live.