While writing and designing my perfect day yesterday, I had one major problem: where do social life, interactions, and connections fit here?
When you're doing more of the things that make you feel alive, meeting less with other people becomes inevitable. It's only natural. After all, most of your time will be spent doing your mission and loving the people closest to you.
But, that doesn't mean you should burn bridges.
Fortunately, the world-famous author and bestselling novelist, Haruki Murakami, offers a solution. In my own words, it's this: Don't just work. Don't just pursue your passion. Don't just do your mission. Build connections and relationships through them as well.
Since they're taking a lot of your time, you might as well make the most of them.
Here's an excerpt from a great article by Poorna Bell on Huffington Post about Haruki Murakami's, as well as other authors', daily routine and belief on relationships:
When he is writing a novel, Murakami wakes at 4:00 A.M. and works for five to six hours straight. In the afternoons he runs or swims (or does both), runs errands, reads, and listens to music; bedtime is 9:00. “I keep to this routine every day without variation,” he told The Paris Review in 2004. “The repetition itself becomes the important thing; it’s a form of mesmerism. I mesmerize myself to reach a deeper state of mind.”
Murakami has said that maintaining this repetition for the time required to complete a novel takes more than mental discipline: “Physical strength is as necessary as artistic sensitivity.”
When he first hung out his shingle as a professional writer, in 1981, after several years running a small jazz club in Tokyo, he discovered that the sedentary lifestyle caused him to gain weight rapidly; he was also smoking as many as sixty cigarettes a day. He soon resolved to change his habits completely, moving with his wife to a rural area, quitting smoking, drinking less, and eating a diet of mostly vegetables and fish. He also started running daily, a habit he has kept up for more than a quarter century.
The one drawback to this self-made schedule, Murakami admitted in a 2008 essay, is that it doesn’t allow for much of a social life. “People are offended when you repeatedly turn down their invitations,” he wrote. But he decided that the indispensable relationship in his life was with his readers. “My readers would welcome whatever life style I chose, as long as I made sure each new work was an improvement over the last. And shouldn’t that be my duty—and my top priority—as a novelist?”
Article: The Daily Routines Of Haruki Murakami, Freud, Jane Austen And Other Great Minds Revealed by Poorna Bell on The Huffington Post UK
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