Four years ago, my professional career did not take off like how I wanted it to be. I felt like I "failed." For a long time, I felt very insecure. I dwelt in self-pity, pushed the people in my life away, and isolated myself from the whole world. For a very long time, I was stuck at being a "failure."
But, those difficult years of my life were also when I learned more about myself, developed new habits, learned new skills (like writing and basic programming, yeah!), gained new experiences and perspectives, and, most importantly, grew closer to God. After all, I had nothing and no one else to run to.
Every trial does have a lesson. But, it's up to you to figure out what it is. Don't let other people define it for you. Most importantly, don't remain stuck at being a "victim." Be a "victor."
Well, I may not have suffered something as life-threatening as cancer, but I survived four years of heartaches, rejections, and overwhelming insecurities. And I'm happy to say, I not only survived it. I became a better person because of it.
Here's a great TED Talk by Debra Jarvis on not letting your experiences claim you, but you claiming your experiences:
Video and Image: Yes, I Survived Cancer. But That Doesn't Define Me by Debra Jarvis on TED