We pursue numbness because we know there will always be pain.
Yes, we choose numbness, instead of feeling the hurt.
We choose to be numb doing work we don’t like doing. “Suck it all up,” they say. “It will all be better eventually,” they say.
But, don’t expect things to be better if you’re not doing your part—of facing the pain, of facing the possibility of rejection should you decide to move to another company, of growing.
Growth entails pain. But, we choose to be numb to the pain instead of going and growing through it.
We choose to be numb instead of feeling. Instead of being human.
We’d rather be numb to conflicts instead of patching things up, making things better, and being vulnerable.
Being vulnerable is painful. Being human is painful. That’s why it’s easier to be numb and build a wall instead of being human and building a bridge.
It’s no wonder the world (at least, the world of work) has become colder.
How about you? Are you numbing yourself from the pain at work? In your relationships?
Think again. Feel again. Be human again.