People may have hurt you in the past. They may have disappointed you or broken your trust.
Now, you may be afraid to trust again.
Digging deeper, what you fear is not trusting again. What you fear is getting hurt. Again.
There are people you forgive, but don’t trust again. Forgiving and trusting are two different things. There are people who deliberately hurt you.
If someone cheated on you, he might say, “I didn’t mean to hurt you.” But, he deliberately chose to cheat. He had a choice to walk away from it. He knew full well that you would get hurt when you find out. (I’m not just talking about relationships. I'm talking about work, business, and art as well.)
These are the people you forgive, but don’t trust again. (Unless, they make radical changes in their lives. Still, be careful.)
That doesn’t mean you don’t trust others again. Especially those who didn’t deliberately hurt you.
Trusting again is about being vulnerable. Again. Vulnerable to heartaches. Vulnerable to getting disappointed. Vulnerable to refusals and rejections. You don’t experience the fullness of trusting without being vulnerable. (Just like we don't experience the fullness of loving without being free. That's why God gave us free will.)
Trusting again is about taking risks. You risk getting hurt by trusting again. But, you also risk deep joy, friendships, and relationships.
Trusting is about remaining optimistic. No matter how many times you have been hurt. It’s about keeping your hopes up (but not your expectations). Without hope, there’s really nothing else.
Trusting takes courage. When you’re on the receiving end of trusting, sure, I’ll tell you to do your best to earn people’s trust and never break it. But, when you’re on the giving end of trusting, focus on what you can control—giving away your trust. You’ll never know if people would break your trust. All you can do is take courage and hope that they never will. And take courage and believe that you will not break in case he or she does.
Trusting is up to you.